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alvinhan
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 Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2003 2:16 pm Post subject: would you marry a guy who didnt want kids? |
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i know some of you have past this stage and already got kids and family, but cast your time back to when you were going out with 'the one' you wanted to marry,
what would you do if he/she vehemently objected to havings kids and a family and didnt want to change his/her mind no matter what
would you launch him/her? or live with him/her a childless life? |
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Jellygirl
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Yes, I would break up with him. I want kids so there is no compromise to be made.
I'd probably be sad to break up over this, but my dream man would want to start a family with me. I love kids and I need a man who loves them as well. |
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hanz
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2003 4:28 am Post subject: |
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| Jellygirl wrote: | Yes, I would break up with him. I want kids so there is no compromise to be made.
I'd probably be sad to break up over this, but my dream man would want to start a family with me. I love kids and I need a man who loves them as well. |
What if he never told you directly that he didn't want kids, then later found out. Say you were already emotionally comitted to him or even married... what would you do then? |
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Jellygirl
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2003 3:03 pm Post subject: |
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| hanz wrote: | | Jellygirl wrote: | Yes, I would break up with him. I want kids so there is no compromise to be made.
I'd probably be sad to break up over this, but my dream man would want to start a family with me. I love kids and I need a man who loves them as well. |
What if he never told you directly that he didn't want kids, then later found out. Say you were already emotionally comitted to him or even married... what would you do then? |
I really don't see how the subject would never have come up. I have lots of nieces and nephews (their pictures are everywhere) and it's obvious I love kids. If I was serious about a guy I would probably even ask him how many he wanted.
If I married someone who said he wanted kids and then later changed his mind, I don't know what I would do. My heart would be broken, honestly. I have always wanted children. |
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basshop
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I don't see the reason for debate.
If you are going to get married, you have to know each other well enough and this should have been discussed well before any serious talk of marriage. |
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jcleo
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| well...i like kids of coz hope that the guy i marry likes kids too. but if he doesnt and i love him so much, this really makes me in dilemma. seems pushing me to make choice between him and children. however, i will try to persuade him until he changes his mind. |
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terrence
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2003 2:50 pm Post subject: |
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If you don't know your partner want kids or not then i advice you not to get marry coz you don't even understand each other. Get to understand more about your partner or else drop the case and find a new partner ........  |
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shiromie
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| Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 2:14 pm Post subject: |
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y want to get married if dont want kids..seems like selfish.just want the partner give all attention to him/her.
find someone that family type person.hehehe  |
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Harun
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| Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Children are like super glue in marriage...as years goes by marriages tend to turn sour. At this point childless couple tend to split up coz there is committment and nothing to lose really... |
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kent
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| Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 6:26 pm Post subject: |
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Personally I wouldn't marry a guy who didn't want kids........  |
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shiromie
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yes2..true2...wut is the meaning of marriage without kids.  but if cannot give birth,do you consider be with him/her?lets say they cant give birth and will take orphan..wut do you say?  |
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baham
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| Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 5:11 pm Post subject: Re: would you marry a guy who didnt want kids? |
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| alvinhan wrote: | i know some of you have past this stage and already got kids and family, but cast your time back to when you were going out with 'the one' you wanted to marry,
what would you do if he/she vehemently objected to havings kids and a family and didnt want to change his/her mind no matter what
would you launch him/her? or live with him/her a childless life? |
get first a decree of divorce if legally married/ if by cohabitation- simply go for separation, then push her into a prostitution den. the essence of marriage is a perpetuation of generation  |
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aryani
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| Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 9:20 am Post subject: |
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| I don't want la...i want kids...bye bye la... |
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SIR
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| Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 1:37 pm Post subject: |
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 huhu can explain somemore aryani........ i defenetly dosent understand... |
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aryani
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| Posted: Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:19 am Post subject: |
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yala...we need kids to continue our generation...what is his reason to deny it? but he have right to object that & i have right too to reject him!!!
I love man that love kids...and having family is my dream...  |
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