How To Be A Better Couple

[alvinhan]

1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.


2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.


3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down the road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!


4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.


5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.


6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.


7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals.. don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.


8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.


9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.


10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

[The^Seeker]

respect and be honest

[kemar52ellis]

hey thanks for your wonderful tips on " How to be a better Couple " , this will definitely going to help many of te newbies in the Love feild

[kristylove]

great tips!thanks^^

[minzi]

to be better couple, first time u must be very caring. call her once or twice per day. dun follow the mistake of the ppl in this video.

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they must be so regret by now.

[sasatan]

(27-Mar-2012 06:18 PM)minzi Wrote: Guests cannot see links in the messages. Please register to forum by clicking here to see links.to be better couple, first time u must be very caring. call her once or twice per day. dun follow the mistake of the ppl in this video.

xpax. com. my/video/1/

they must be so regret by now.

The video i found its ending, perhaps u can refer it.
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u check it out and see.
now only i realise that any misunderstanding can easily be avoided by just calling your love one and nicely communicte with each other. u noe. just one call only can make the difference.
I'm gonna call my darl now and wanna say I Love Her.

[susun]

thank you~

[Blaze007]

This indeed is a very helpful post. Marriage is a full time job and couples should take it very seriously. I don't mean serious as in staying grim all the time; I mean that they must consider it their first priority! Staying together is a wonderful experience, but only if the couples know which buttons to push to get cooperation from the other person. The one great tip which I often give to others is to maintain communication at all times. Then there is a sin which all couples should always refrain indulging into; it's the blame game. It is when both the partners try to get leverage by pinning their faults and other incidents on each other. This is when the marital bliss goes out of the window and distress comes to live in. So, stay focused on the happiness and ignore all the bumps for a successful marriage!